Proverbs 4:23, Can You REALLY Trust Him? Can You REALLY Trust Yourself?

This received in my email recently.  My comments below...

This is about the saddest advertisement I have ever seen.  It is sad enough that this young woman and this young man have given away their intimacy (or taken it away from the other) without the commitment of marital bonds, but now FREMYMIND.COM proposes to restore her security with a simple background check of the man she just slept with.  Say what?!  I guess when things are going great for me, I also am tempted to think that we are not really as needy as the Bible says.  However, this ad highlights the desperate neediness and lost state of mankind with neon lights.  Do you see how utterly sad this scene is?  Do you see it?

FREMYMIND.COM  is trying to sell her and us security by validating the integrity of the man that just stole her intimacy!  Or did she sell it to him or give it away for free?  And this is the bear trap we find ourselves in all too frequently because of our sin.  Though I may condemn you or you condemn me because of our foolish, sinful choices, the Lord Jesus' heart bleeds because of his love for us.  Matthew 9:36 (WEB) says, "But when he saw the multitudes, he was moved with compassion for them, because they were harassed and scattered, like sheep without a shepherd." 

The woman above is so blind that her only question is can she trust the man she just slept with, even though they have no commitment whatsoever.  Where did she meet the guy, at a bar?  Was he drunk?  Did she really give herself to a man she knows so little about that she needs to run a background check on the man?  The real question she ought to be asking in light of these foolish decisions is can she trust herself!  Can she trust herself after giving away her great value to someone she doesn't even know?  Why, if she worked at a jewelry store and let a customer walk out the door with a handful of diamonds without the commitment of payment she would be fired.  Yet the young woman above is worth more than all the diamonds in the world, yet the sleeping dude walked out the door with her diamonds with at most vain promises of marital commitment.  Selfish cowardliness.

And what about him, can he trust her?  Where did he meet her, at a sorority party?  Is she clean or is he one more notch on her lipstick case?  Did he really risk so much for a moment of pleasure with a woman that knows nothing about him, and presumably he knows nothing about her?  Can he really trust himself?  He lays there peacefully dozing thinking he scored free of charge, with no understanding whatsoever of the true cost of his actions.

All these words and we haven't even mentioned the possibility of pregnancy.  The little ditty from our children is long forgotten....'First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage.'  Sadly, babies come without love or marriage and their most common destiny in the land of the free and the brave is the trash can behind medical facilities.  We are not the free and the brave, but the enslaved and the cowardly, killing our own children.

So what is the answer? The answer is that NO she cannot trust him and NO he cannot trust her!  In fact the Bible even says is foolish for us to EVER trust in ourselves and also that we should NEVER trust in another person.  Even if we happen to think we are a good person, we are foolish to trust in ourselves.  That is right, we are foolish to EVER trust in ourselves and should NEVER trust in another person.  Surprised?  Read for yourself...

One who trusts in himself is a fool; but one who walks in wisdom is kept safe.

Proverbs 28:26 (WEB)

Don't put your trust in princes, each a son of man in whom there is no help.

Psalm 146:3 (WEB)

So what should we do instead?

Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life.

Proverbs 4:23 (WEB)

The only hope for the couple above is to cease trusting one another and instead to trust to Lord God and obey his commands for marriage and follow his pattern for romance and chivalry.  Only then will a woman be able respect her husband even though he is a sinner and a man love his wife even though she is also a sinner.  FREMYMIND.COM is not selling security but a lie.